Yesterday Fathersvox and I met with an education attorney to talk about what options we might have for other schools for Sweet M.
This particular attorney is tremendously knowledgeable about the available schools and ways of securing funding for said schools if one winds up at a non-state funded private special education school, so we were eager to talk with her about what might be possible.
There has been one school in particular that everyone has recommended that we look at for Sweet M. We were reluctant because the school is in another borough of New York City, quite far from where we live — over the river from us — and we weren't feeling particularly sanguine about having her so far away, especially in case of any other extraordinary events such as those we experienced in September 2001.
But once you've heard person after person sing the praises of a school over and over and over again, you start to put aside your hesitations, you start to be persuaded. And it's a state-approved, state-funded school, and so would not require us to sue the Department of Education for private school tuition.
So we were eager to talk with the attorney about this particular school. After a quick look at Sweet M's neuropsych report, the attorney announced: This is what'll keep her out of X school. This full scale IQ is too low.
Too low? I asked. Sweet M has a low average full scale IQ, with fairly typical splits associated with kids with language impairments. We'd always been told that IQ scores like these have to be interpreted with caution because there is too much variation between the performance IQ and the verbal IQ.
Yes, much too low, the attorney replied. X school is looking for ASD kids with fullscale IQs of 125 or more.
So now in order to qualify for a special education setting one has to have an IQ that is two standard deviations above the mean? If these are the kids who go to the state-funded special education schools, you've gotta wonder what it takes to qualify as gifted and talented.
I have the sinking feeling that we have entered the looking glass world where everything is the opposite of what it's supposed to be.