tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19421951.post5141927315091357695..comments2023-10-18T04:52:43.144-04:00Comments on Autism's Edges: Oughtism RevisitedMothersVoxhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02479178355207142195noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19421951.post-31053200176949358152012-09-07T17:34:29.352-04:002012-09-07T17:34:29.352-04:00You ought to be proud.
That's what you ought t...You ought to be proud.<br />That's what you ought to do.<br /><br />I'm glad your girl is doing better. Big social celebrations can be tough, but she will have good memories of it, and it made her happy. That's a damn fine celebration you three had, if I do say so myself (which I do).<br /><br />Sincerely,<br />The crazy lady who just commented on your post from 2006.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19421951.post-1317278327870979882012-08-14T19:29:55.193-04:002012-08-14T19:29:55.193-04:00Great post, really love the word Oughtism.Great post, really love the word Oughtism.meganhttp://autisticplayplace.org/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19421951.post-91285253943005539292012-08-08T18:40:26.836-04:002012-08-08T18:40:26.836-04:00Hi Jan! If you don't feel like posting it, yo...Hi Jan! If you don't feel like posting it, you can email me at autismsedges [at] gmail [dot] com. I'd love to hear more about it! Thanks again!MothersVoxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02479178355207142195noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19421951.post-11435529722957763372012-08-08T18:15:07.838-04:002012-08-08T18:15:07.838-04:00Do you want me to put the camp info in the comment...Do you want me to put the camp info in the comments or should I email you separately? (Of course, I don't have your email!)Janhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09707174828282374982noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19421951.post-8163146794227448482012-08-07T15:10:43.155-04:002012-08-07T15:10:43.155-04:00I like this post so much! And how is our "ou...I like this post so much! And how is our "oughtism" focused? With a stupid amount of guilt, like how I envy your daughter reading (will that happen for either of my girls), and how I'd trade the days that I can take my girl to the beach, the fireworks, and yes, yes, the swimming, because submerged in water she feels whole. Isn't reading better? Yes, no, who knows? You'ginabadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03088452361963571004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19421951.post-76327796927656169602012-08-07T13:18:29.134-04:002012-08-07T13:18:29.134-04:00Hey Jan! So glad camp went well for your girl! Wa...Hey Jan! So glad camp went well for your girl! Was it a special needs camp, or a mainstream camp? I want our girl to go next year. It's just time. I see her languishing this summer and am feeling her windows of opportunity for social development slowly swinging closed. Gotta make a better plan for next summer.MothersVoxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02479178355207142195noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19421951.post-25585570724254293582012-08-07T12:45:49.939-04:002012-08-07T12:45:49.939-04:00The camp went well. She got through 10 days witho...The camp went well. She got through 10 days without meltdown, without feeling the need to escape to her bed with a book. She talked with her cabin group (4 girls+2 counselors, group sessions once or twice a day) about feelings and fitting in and relating to others, and that sort of thing. She came out smiling and talking a mile a minute about what they did. (And then, of course, halfway Janhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09707174828282374982noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19421951.post-31030499500117445702012-07-22T09:32:05.657-04:002012-07-22T09:32:05.657-04:00I find it takes continuous work to fight the "...I find it takes continuous work to fight the "oughts." There are so many layers. We coaxed my son to the beach last week. While his brother built sand castles, my older son drew dozens of pictures of musical instruments in the sand. I had to remind myself to be happy we're spending time together at the beach; there's no reason he has to do typical things like throw the frisbee Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19421951.post-42895265855418382812012-07-16T11:08:05.932-04:002012-07-16T11:08:05.932-04:00Hey Monica, So glad to hear that other fine neighb...Hey Monica, So glad to hear that other fine neighbors made the same decision we'd made -- staying in and watching TV under the AC has more proponents than we knew about! <br /><br />And Jan, so happy if this post is helpful to you and your family! Please let us know how the camp thing goes for you! We had so many odd experiences with camps that we basically threw in the towel. I remember MothersVoxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02479178355207142195noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19421951.post-75808059332564718932012-07-12T12:06:22.913-04:002012-07-12T12:06:22.913-04:00Oh, please do post more! Even though my daughter ...Oh, please do post more! Even though my daughter is not on the spectrum, her other issues, including tremendous anxiety (and late reading, and no friends....), make your issues and struggles feel very close to ours. <br /><br />We are taking the plunge this year and sending her to a 10-day overnight camp for kids with social anxiety. Camp-stuff, but also group twice a day. We see this as prepJanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09707174828282374982noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19421951.post-7599880057883793292012-07-10T16:31:46.720-04:002012-07-10T16:31:46.720-04:00We were also here at home, holed up under the air ...We were also here at home, holed up under the air conditioner, for the 4th of July. To me, it seemed like the only sensible thing to do!<br /><br />And as far as fireworks are concerned, I think that the San Diego show this year should forever set the standard:<br /><br />http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lrPCEubDZ9A<br /><br />Good to hear that you're having a relaxed summer. No "oughts&Monicanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19421951.post-89205608202008905192012-07-09T09:53:14.833-04:002012-07-09T09:53:14.833-04:00Thanks Kristen and Audball -- Although I've be...Thanks Kristen and Audball -- Although I've been quiet over at the blog, we've been working on a lot of things and I want to post more. Always balancing between her privacy and my need to work things out in dialogue with the community of parents with kids on the spectrum. This summer will be interesting, I think, for the social skills piece of things. Hoping you and yours are well!MothersVoxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02479178355207142195noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19421951.post-17046749097081346672012-07-08T23:38:58.609-04:002012-07-08T23:38:58.609-04:00This is a beautiful post and it speaks for us as w...This is a beautiful post and it speaks for us as well. We go through our versions of "oughtism" routinely, but as you have done, it helps to step back and see the huge amount of progress that has been made. <br /><br />I find myself laughing sometimes thinking about how we have gone to the fountains near our home, where children frolic all summer and yell for ice cream and have picnic audballhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17499068870667071905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19421951.post-87958073633364773212012-07-07T23:32:28.053-04:002012-07-07T23:32:28.053-04:00I love this post. There is so much here that speak...I love this post. There is so much here that speaks to my heart right now. Oughtism. How perfect that word is.kristen spinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12099514779097752438noreply@blogger.com